Every Saturday in my coach and I’s Busy Mommy Bootcamp we talk about how we are imperfectly PERFECT and how we should embrace it! And, I just had to make our group checkin post today a blog post. We are on day 13 of 30 in the group and I am LOVING it! It’s one of the things I most look forward to checking in on when I get on Facebook.
So, here’s what I posted this morning:
“Saturday ~ Being Imperfectly Perfect
*disclaimer ~ long post alert! Ha, I had a LOT to say this morning!*
Day 13 ~
“Just BUY the F’ng cupcakes!!!!”
Have you ever had the need to be the perfect mom or have you ever thought another mom was the perfect mom? Or is there something that you think you should like to do or take the time to do either for your significant other or your kids?
(Take a few minutes to read the blog post I included at the end ~ I LOVED it on scary mommy about the assumptions we can make when it comes to watching and maybe comparing ourselves to other moms.)
Ever since my kid started preschool, I’ve had this annoying habit of thinking I’m not doing enuf. And, there are a few things I feel like I COULD and SHOULD do better when it comes to her and that little Kindergarten class now. But, one of the things may sound kinda funny and that is BAKING. I don’t love to bake. I just don’t really enjoy it. AND, I’m not that good at it! And, it drives my hubby crazy ~ He doesn’t really even love sweets and I end up eating most of what I do….but I think he sometimes has this June Cleaver mentality that wives SHOULD just LOVE to bake (and garden apparently, but that’s for another post lol). Well, this is gonna be one example I personally have for making the time to do what you enjoy….or in this case, what you DON’T make time for. I don’t ENJOY baking….therefore I don’t make the time to bake lol.
BUT, it makes me FEEL kinda bad and guilty….especially when it comes to Brooklyn being in school. I would volunteer at the drop of the hat to bring something they need…but the minute the teacher asks for a volunteer to BAKE cookies or something….I’m out. Truth be told, I would even be that mom who BUYS something for the class bake sale.#sorrynotsorry
And, what’s maybe even more ironic about this is that one of my absolute FAVE things are CUPCAKES. And, there’s nothing like a batch of homemade cupcakes….(and THAT my friends is why I always steer B to the cupcakes at cake walks…yes, the same cake walks where I always pray to get something like POP that we have to bring lol). Anyway, I digress….
But, when I was trying to come up with something to talk about today about being imperfectly perfect, I remembered B’s birthday last weekend and how when I posted the pics of her cupcake cake (which I totally ordered from Albertsons…for the low low price of $21) I had to kinda laugh when there were a bunch of comments about how good the cupcakes looked…and there were a few comments that kinda sounded like they thought I actually made them. (btw, if you saw the pics and thought I did, THANK YOU! ha) Nope, I didn’t for one second even contemplate baking them myself. And, you know what….her party was wonderful! AND, the cupcakes were more than edible. So, it got me thinking about something one of the top coaches in our network said last summer at our Coach Summit (our annual conference) in Nashville.
Her name was Sommer and when she was first growing her coaching business, she was a military wife who was home with their 2 kids. She was talking about how hard it was to have her husband gone and how she was spending her time with other military wives on the base….and talked about how she had fallen into this trap of “keeping up with the MOM-Joneses’.” I think we’ve all heard the statement…”keeping up with The Joneses” but I thought it was HILARIOUS when I heard her say the MOM-Joneses. She went on to talk about how many hours we each have in the week. (She actually did this break down that I LOVE and that I’m going to share on another day) And, when you come down to it, obviously your time is SO SO precious ~ she made it her life’s mission to make enough as a coach to bring her husband home from the military so that her kids didn’t have to say goodbye to him for a year at a time AND for her to stop comparing herself to the other moms on base. Not only did she not have the time to do everything she felt pressured to do to keep up ~ it sipmly didn’t serve her. (oh, and you know what….she did both btw! She got over her need to keep up with the other moms AND was able to retire her hubby with her coaching!*) And, at the end of her session, she said something I will NEVER forget…’cuz it fit me PERFECTLY!……She said, “and you know what?!?! It’s okay to just BUY the F’ng CUPCAKES!!!!” lol
Ok, now, maybe you LOVE to bake! (I actually hope you do ‘cuz maybe you can bake some stuff for me ~ hehe.) Maybe that’s something for you that you find true joy in!! But, I challenge you today to share with us what your “buy the F’ng cupcakes” moment is. What’s something that maybe you WANT to like to do or THINK you should like to do either for your significant other or your kids OR maybe because you see other moms doing it and you assume they love it…and maybe they do! But, isn’t it also funny how we maybe make assumptions about other women?!? If you want to share anything there, too, please do 🙂
p.s. Don’t forget to check in on this post for the day, too 🙂 Let’s not let the weekend…and a holiday weekend at that…derail our goals!!
Ha, so, yes, there you have it! A glimpse into how fun
and revealing our accountability groups are 🙂 So, please don’t judge me. Well, actually you can if you want to ~ I don’t really care about that anymore lol. #imstillgonnabuythefngcupcakes And, just so you know how serious I am about BUYING THE CUPCAKES, I totally forgot TWICE while we were running errands for her bday to actually buy treats for her class. I was so worried about the party at home, I spaced it. So, the Monday morning after her birthday, I had to drive 15 miles to the nearest Cashwise at 5 am to BUY THE CUPCAKES. #icantmakethisstuffup #wouldabeenfastertoBAKEthefngcupcakes
And, to leave you with some #momspiration…..
and most importantly!
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